9 Simple ways to overcome Procrastination (STRESS) (Means Procrastination is a type of behavior which is characterized by deferment of actions or tasks to a later time. Psychologists often cite procrastination as a mechanism for coping with the anxiety associated with starting or completing any task or decision

When a person is bored or uninterested, certain tasks and projects can seem like torture! This feeling usually leads to procrastination, and procrastination often leads to guilt.
Here are some Simple and Practical ways to avoid these situations and overcome procrastination:
1. Rest Well.
Be sure to get enough sleep and rest each day so that you have the necessary energy you need to accomplish your tasks.
2. Get a Friend/Spouse Involved
It’s harder to procrastinate when another person is involved. If you have a task you aren’t looking forward to, invite a friend over to help you out. If you have errands to run, find a buddy who you can run errands with.
3. Reward Yourself
You’re much more likely to complete that boring task if there is a reward (motivation) for the task if complete. Like a Chocolate or Prize or Recognition
4. Do Things in Bits and Pieces
Procrastination often comes from feelings of overwhelm. You cannot eat an entire elephant at one shot. It has to eaten in bits and pieces. Break tasks, even small ones, into steps so that they are manageable and provide you with a sense of direction.
5. Take a Break
Turn on some fun and upbeat music and let it pump you up! Watch TV or play cricket or play with your kids or what ever will help you recharge your battery and refresh.
6. Delegate
Do you find yourself procrastinating on chores like reports or maybe paperwork at the office?
Delegate them! Administrative assistants and more are all available to take some of those boring tasks off your list and free up your time for the stuff you’d rather be doing.
7. Prioritize
Perhaps you’re procrastinating on a task because it’s really not that important. Maybe you’d love to re-organize your desk, but never get around to it. If it sounds like a good idea but in the end it’s really not that important to you, don’t let it hang over your head.
8. Get in Touch with the End Result
Before you begin a task or project that has high procrastination potential, get in touch with the outcome. When the task is finished, what will that mean to you? What will be better in life as a result? Have clarity of your goal and the result when you achieve it.
9. Just Do It!!
You do not have to get it right in the beginning but important is you have to get it going. Don’t think about it too much, just jump in and get it done! Take Action Now.
“The Journey of Thousand miles begin with the first single step… Take it now.”

As email is the prevalent form of communication for many web workers, it’s gotten a lot of attention: how to handle your email, how to empty your inbox, email etiquette, and more.
But perhaps not enough time is spent learning about how to communicate with email. And more specifically, how to communicate clearly and concisely, two crucial aspects of communication that are often overlooked.
How many times have you received a rambling and incoherent email? How many times have you hit “Delete” because you have no idea what the person wants and no time to sort through the long message?
The truth is that people don’t have time for long emails, and they don’t have time to try to find out exactly what you want. You have to tell them, in as short an email as possible.
Misunderstandings are also a problem, because of the nature of email. People are often ambiguous, and their messages are interpreted differently than they intended, leading to a waste of time and energy.
Communicate clearly and concisely with the following rules.
1. Use the minimum amount of sentences. I’ve been using the 5-sentence rule, but you can use more if needed. The question is: how many sentences are needed to communicate what you’re trying to communicate? Or how few sentences can you get away with. Cut it to that number, and no more. That ensures that you’re not wasting the time of the recipient, and that your email actually gets read (people tend to put off reading longer ones, and might even delete them).
2. State what you want right away. Don’t write a long introduction, telling your life story, or any story for that matter. People aren’t interested. They just want to know what you want. So state that, in the first sentence. Skip the niceties. Don’t make the recipient wade through 10 paragraphs to find what action is needed for the email.
3. Write about only one thing. There have been numerous times when I read an email, saw the action needed, and went and did it … only to find out that three other things were also needed to respond to the email. I’ve also responded to the first part of an email and not to others, just because I didn’t have enough time.
If you write about multiple things, with multiple requests, you do two things: 1) make it likely that your email actually won’t be read or acted on; and 2) make it likely that even if it is acted on or responded to, the recipient will only do one of those things.
Instead, stick to one subject, with one request. Once that’s done, you can send a second one, but don’t overwhelm the recipient if at all possible.
4. Leave out the humour and emotions. These don’t come across well in an email. Even if you use emoticons. There’s just no way to express tone, inflection, etc. … And there’s no way to know if the recipient understands that you’re joking. If you’re communicating in person, you can see that the person didn’t understand the humour, and say, “I was only joking!” But not in email.
So, unless you know the person well, and you know they’ll understand that you’re joking, leave out humour. It’s a risk that you don’t want to take.
5. Use “If … then” statements. As email is a back-and-forth method of communicating, and it can take a day or more for a response (in some cases), you want to limit the number of times a message has to go back and forth. To do that, use “if … then” statements, anticipating the possible responses to your question.
For example, if you want to know if a person has received a response to an inquiry, instead of asking if they’ve received a response, and then waiting for a reply, and then sending another email based on that reply, try doing it all in one email:
“Have you received a response from Mr. X yet? If so, please finish the report by Tuesday and email it to me. If not, can you follow up today and let me know the response?”
By anticipating the possible responses, and giving a desired action for each possible response, you’re cutting a lot of wasted back-and-forth time.
6. Review for ambiguity, clarity. Once you’ve written an email, take a few seconds to read over it before pressing the Send button. Read it as if you were an outsider — how clear it it? Are there any ambiguous statements that could be interpreted the wrong way? If so, clarify.
7. Revise for conciseness. As you review, also see if there is a way you can shorten the email, remove words or sentences or even paragraphs. Leave nothing but the essential message you’re trying to communicate.

6 Keys to Resolving Conflict
1. DISTINGUISH FACTS FROM FICTION.
Remember “Dragnet and Sgt. Friday? His famous line was “Just the facts, Ma’am.” We all think our view of the world is the “right” one: the only right one. Recognize that you just have a piece of the ‘truth’. Try creating a police or news report that captures both your view of what happened as well as the view of the person with whom you’re having the conflict. This will help you release your attachment to the ‘right-ness’ of your personal perspective.
When we disagree with someone, we often get worked up over not just the event that happened, but the judgments we made about the situation and the person, the feelings that were evoked in us and the story we make up about what it all means. Take ownership for your own feelings. The other person didn’t “make you feel” a particular way. They did what they did. You chose to feel the way you did. You gave the situation all the meaning it had for you. There was a whole range of emotions you could have felt and conclusions you could have drawn. You picked the ones you did, so notice if they represent a familiar theme in your life.
2. DISTINGUISH MOTIVE AND EMOTIONS
We often assume we know what the other person was intending to do ‘to us’. The only thing we really know is the reaction we had to the other person’s behaviour. Recognize that they may not have ‘meant’ to disrespect (or hurt, or ignore or control) you. Also recognize that if you are the perpetrator, just because your motive was innocent, that doesn’t negate the feelings the other person experienced.
3. CONVERT COMPLAINTS TO REQUESTS
Imagine that any complaint (yours or another’s) is really a request in disguise. When we are in situations we don’t like and we feel powerless, the natural response is to complain and blame.
Next time you catch yourself complaining, stop and ask yourself “If something could be different here and I would like that better, what would ‘that’ be?” Then ask for it! Make the request to someone who has the power to grant it. Complaining or making requests to anyone else won’t get your problem solved.
4. START WHERE YOU ARE
Sometimes, you know exactly what you want to say but the words get stuck in your throat like a big wad of chunky peanut butter. There is a clear message to be delivered, but you hesitate to say it aloud out of fear, worry or concern about the other person’s possible reaction. At those times, start with where you’re stuck. Open the dialog with “I’d like to say something, but I’m afraid that I’ll… or you’ll…” You’ll be surprised at the impact that sharing your vulnerability will have on the receptivity of the other person. You’ll also be surprised at how easily the important message will now come out.
5) TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR CONTRIBUTION, ROLE OR INFLUENCE.
Recognize that you may have something to do with the continued existence of the problem.
This is generally hard for people to deal with. It’s so much easier to blame someone else for your problems. It’s the “those idiots over there” syndrome. “If they would just…” They may not.
Figure out what actions you can take to solve your own dilemma.
6) FORGIVE AND GIVE YOURSELF A GIFT
Forgiveness is not condoning or even accepting. Forgiving someone in your heart who has ‘wronged’ you, just releases your agony. It does nothing for them. Holding on to your grievance will just keep your blood pressure high. If you can’t muster “I forgive them”, try “I’m willing to forgive them.” Then let it go and let your willingness salve your pain.

5 Reasons Why God Uses Problems

The problems you face will either defeat you or develop
You - depending on how you respond to them.
Unfortunately, most people fail to see how God wants to use problems for good in their lives. They react foolishly and resent their
Problems rather than pausing to consider what benefit they might bring.
Here are five ways God wants to use the problems in your life:
1. God Uses Problems to DIRECT U
Sometimes God must light a fire under you to get you moving.
Problems often point us in a new direction and motivate us to change.
Is God trying to get your attention? “Sometimes it takes
A painful situation to make us change our ways.”
2. God Uses Problems to INSPECT U
People are like tea bags…if you want to know what’s inside them,
Just drop them into hot ever water! Has God Tested?
Your faith with a problem what do problems reveal about you?
“When you have many kinds of troubles, you should be full
of joy, because you know that these troubles test your faith,
And this will give you patience.”
3. God Uses Problems to CORRECT U
Some lessons we learn only through pain and failure.
It’s likely that as a child your parents told you not to touch a hot stove.
But you probably learned by being burned. Sometimes we only learn
The value of something… health, money, a relationship. ..
By losing it. “It was the best thing that could have happened to me,
For it taught me to pay attention to your laws.”
4. God Uses Problems to PROTECT U
A problem can be a blessing in disguise if it prevents you from
being harmed by something more serious. Last year a friend
was fired for refusing to do something unethical that his boss
had asked him to do. His unemployment was a problem - but
it saved him from being convicted and sent to prison a year
later when management’s actions were eventually discovered.
“You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good…
5. God Uses Problems to PERFECT U
Problems, when responded to correctly, are character builders.
God is far more interested in your character than your comfort.
Your relationship to God and your character are the only two
things you’re going to take with you into eternity.
“We can rejoice when we run into problems…
they help us learn to be patient. And patience develops strength of
character in us and helps us trust God more each time
We use it until finally our hope and faith are strong and steady.”
Here’s the point Ad:
God is at work in your life - even when you do not recognize it or understand it.
But it’s much easier and profitable when you cooperate with Him.
“Success can be measured not only in achievements, but in lessons learned,
lives touched and moments shared along the way”

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Today as usual I was on my way to the college. I took the train to south London. The train was nearly empty and I sat near the window and took my favourite book and an Snicker bar out of my bag, continued reading. While waiting for the train to depart, two elegant gentlemen with nice suits and bags, step in the train and put their stuff on the near set of seats with table, in front of each other. One of them was a bit older about forty five or fifty with short gray hair and a pair of nice glasses, and the other one was around thirty five or so, a bit overweighed with long black hair, nicely groomed clean hippy beard and nice thin fashionable glasses ; he quickly ran to the toilet.

The older man brought a morning free news paper out of his yellow leather bag and put it in front, on the table;  some drink adverts were visible on that side of the paper. He looked around and then started staring at the drink advertisements, the same way as he was reading or investigating something quite serious, gravely.

I started reading the book and soon the story absorbed me in itself. However, it did not take long that I could not continue reading, because now the two men were sitting in front of each other and exchanging some words, comfortable loud, very literately and charming.

Honestly I was disturbed again and again because of their loud voice and I could not concentrate even for a second. I looked around once.  The head of both men were down looking at the newspaper advert in silence. The young man exclaimed: Jesus. And both kept staring down in quite. I started reading again.

The mobile of the older man rang and he started a lout conversation. He was truly loud but I could feel that he was not loud because he had problem with hearing or his throat, but probably because of massive confidence, in disregarding the presence of people around him in some ways. He spoke very confidently using a mixture of political and medical terminology and referring to NHS and some other related departments and organisations frequently. I stopped reading again looking at my book blankly. I could not fantasize the book content any more while the medical terminology stitched my mind reminding some unpleasant  memories from very past time, when I was studying physiology at the University of Tehran, two decade ago. The telephone conversation of the man took maybe more than five minutes while I was looking at the far distant green landscapes south London. Then his telephone conversation was finished.

Then the two men start exchanging some short sentences, chortling in between, regarding the same subject that the older man was earlier talking. I tried to concentrate reading my book again until the two men again started to talk again at full volume chuckling now and then. It appeared to me that both gentlemen were medical doctors, and obviously specialists in something.

The younger man referred to an incidence that upset him earlier that morning. Apparently one of his colleagues had upset him because of his or her naivety, in culture or background or something; obviously he was using a posh language, using words, delivering concepts much higher than my verbal skill repertoire, and understanding, obviously.

The older man soothingly asked him to say more about the incident. The younger man spoke about a “she”, one of his colleagues, a GP or some thing from somewhere that I could not register were. “A sixty nine years old man had referred to her, last night. Her diagnostic was that he should visit a specialist immediately…then she gave me a ring. She wanted to refer to me. I totally disagreed to the diagnostic. My diagnostic was completely different. I explained that her diagnostic is completely wrong. That was it.”

“And what happened then?”

“She called me today. She said that the man died earlier this morning.”

“Because of the same diagnostic?”

“Yes. She was very upset. Very upset.” While he was stressing on the word “upset” each time, a bit louder, as he finished his sentence.

The older friend, soothing his upset young friend, chortling asked: “where is she from?”

“umm, she studied in America; she was born here. Manchester I think. Then she moved to America with her family many years ago; studied in America; American system; worked over there for a while; then came back to the UK.”

“American system”

“Yeah; cultural difference; there, they think differently; different culture. American system.”

They both laughed at it.

“Different culture, yeah!”

They changed the subject soon. Then the mobile of the older man rang again and he started another long conversation again. He was so loud, disturbing everyone in the carriage, confident enough to look at every ones face and ignore them.

Luckily I had to get off the train before he was finished.

Any essay consists of three main parts: introduction, body and conclusion. Despite being different in size each part has a very important influence and effect on readers. A good introduction attracts reader to continue reading, and a good essay’s body absorbs readers to finish and enjoy reading that essay expecting a good conclusion.

In introduction we outline  what we would like to write about briefly. In introduction we should explain why we want to write about that specific subject and what makes it specially important. We may mention if there are some problems concerning everyone or a particular group of people, that others should know about  or there are some controversies in some social issues, and so on. We should stress on main reasons why these facts should not be ignored. We should know who we are writing for or what group of people may be interested in reading our essay.

During writing the body of  essay, writers develop the discussion towards their desired directions.  Especially during last three decades, writer are recommended to use a very useful feature of systematic thinking, by drawing “connective concept maps” . Concept maps are very useful in producing patterns of information while doing “brain storming”. While brain storming, we look at the subject of discussion from many different angle and point of views and by drawing the concept map, we produce a perceptive image for ourselves to write defectively and efficiently. In the body of the essay we may try to answer the questions that we had been asked  introduction, or highlighting the unknown parts of the issue to make authorities or anyone else who would be concerned, answer those questions.  We may mention some terms, or have some explanations, or presenting a background of the matter.

In conclusion, we sum up the whole discussion and try to draw some clearer lines to classify or answer the problems that we have asked before. We may recommend more research, or discussion in next steps, or advise, or recommend things that should happen in future.

To find a suitable job, we need to describe ourselves to the employer professionally with an accurate language. Indeed it is very important to be able to describe things efficiently. Descriptive writing is one of the most important methods of transferring information and ideas to others. Sometimes only a picture is more informative than a long description nevertheless still a good comment may be required to describe the relevant purposes, advantages , difficulties and what ever significant.

Talking about ourselves basically is very similar to the way we observe and describe other stuff around us. When we want to describe an object or event, how we highlight the important aspects of it to create dimension, movement, pattern and existence. We start with identifying the most important characteristics and gradually identifying and illustrating the details.

There is a helpful list of words referring the different point of view while we are observing any specific object below. This list helps us to look at the subject of description more resourcefully, to describe a powerful image for others:

Abilities

Advantages

Age

Background

Beauty

Behaviour

Care

Colour

Compassion

Condition

Culture

Dignity

Direction

Disabilities

Dress

Education

Efficiency

Emotional state

Energy

Fashion

Function

Geometry

Health

Height

History

Importance

Importance

Intelligence

Interests

Irregularity

Language

Locality

Material

Maturity

Memory

Mood

Morality

Name

Necessitate

Number

Partitions

Past

Pattern

Power

Price

Proportion

Regularity

Reminder

Sensitivity

Shape

Similarity

Size

Skills

Smell

Sound

Speed

Stability

Strength

Style

Symmetry

Talent

Temperature

Texture

Thickness

Touch

Usage

Vulnerability

Weak points

Weight

At the second stage, we need to find the right words to describe our observation. As it was mentioned, the writing should start from general aspects to special, beginning with basic information about the most essential distinguishable features at the start and gradually emphasizing the uniqueness and areas of proficiency. Here there are some word which would help us to describe ourselves adequately in a cover letter:

Alert

Ambitious

Analytical

Attentive

Conscientious

Consistent

Constructive

Creative

Dependable

Determined

Disciplined

Distinct

Economical

Efficient

Energetic

Enthusiastic

Fair

Flexible

Imaginative

Independent

Lively

Logical

Loyal

Mature

Objective

Optimistic

Perceptive

Pleasant

Political

Positive

Practical

Productive

Realistic

Reliable

Resourceful

Reverential

Sensitive

Sincere

Systematic

Talented

Tolerant

Essential time management, in comparison to other essential things, for example Essential Relativity, does not sound serious as it really may be. However a deep understanding of the process of changes and development in terms of time sound quite important.

The definition of time the way of modern physicists, returns to the late 19^th century, when popular scientists like Albert Einstein thought about it. We may ask ourselves how they came up with the basic definition of time, regarding its nature and relation to other aspects of matter and life. As an answer, we can say that those scientists very much like other people were curious about the events happening around them.  For example, at the end of the 19^th century, the invention of movie and motion picture was as interesting as development and attraction of Internet at the end of 20^th century in some ways. As a basic rule of movie, for instance, a sequence of sixteen pictures per second can give the impression of a continual movement or change in objects in films. Nowadays moviemakers occasionally use even more than four hundred of frames per second to catch the ideal resolution for recording the detailed movements of fast objects. Obviously there are many more factors involved in modern movie making industry, nevertheless that much of a basic substantial inventiveness would be enough for smart physicists one century ago to obtain an essential thought for defining the physical properties of time.

Despite the fact that a movie is categorized to be a tempo-spatial kind of art, its dependence to space and time itself, there is a good analogy to compare a movie (or film strip) to the gradual change in matter, to produce the sense of time for an independent observer. Comparing a single frame of a movie to an imaginary “pulse ” of existence in each instance of “being” could be the key option to have a new physical point of view to matter and time. The good news was that at this point they could measure and calculate changes at a measurable level, however, it required a good deal of imagination for scientist to sum up many evidence from here and there to build up a proper point of view as prominent physicists including Einstein would do. Regretfully, the complicated way of formulating different observations overshadowed the applicable principles which could be used by ordinary people. Despite that we should never disregard the simplicity of the basic set of laws to manage our personal life, rather calculations require for astronomical or atomic phenomenon.

The first impression is that the pulse of life or existence is reasonably high to be invisible to observe easily. However this is not the case, or basically it does not matter much, simply because we, as an observer, are part of the image, not standing out it, as an independent onlooker. That is the possible reason making time travel rather impractical if not completely impossible, because as a part of an image in a film strip, we cannot walk out from that image and travel back or forward through the process of existence which is called time.

The straightforward applications of Einstein’s Essential Relativity or Heisenberg’s Uncertainty theories may surprise everyone regarding their practical nature in our everyday life, however at this time yet they are very much restricted to theoretical physics application.

For example a question is, if time do not contract or expand, how factors like concentration and management make big things happen in unexpected shorter time. In fact that invisible connection, “speed”, changes the things or in reverse, changing things vary the speed.

To be continued.

When you child reaches the age when they start full-time education or even before then there are so many options available for education and training with no course fees and fully certified childcare can also be paid for.

The age that your child used to have to be before lone parents were forced into work dropped last year from 16 to 12 and is due to drop again in the near future to 8, meaning once your youngest child reaches the age of 8, you will automatically be transferred on to job seekers allowance and forced to look for work all those opportunities that were available to you as a lone parent on income support disappear.

In this current climate employers are looking for people with either lots of experience or a qualification so what I am really trying to stress is please don’t wait until it’s too late take advantage of the many opportunities available to you now such as education, access to higher education, apprenticeships, employment based training, voluntary opportunities are very good for gaining experience and often provide on the job training. So whatever your chosen profession may be, there is bound to be an opportunity for you.