The impact of Good and Bad body language
Most people when asked can describe what they feel to be “bad”
or negative body language as it is easier to describe than ”good”
or positive body- language. In practice we can see when someone is unconfident
or upset much easier than if they are confident or happy. In contrast
a person may have an air of confidence about then but it is hard to
pin down. You can learn confident body language and put it into practice.
After you begin to do this it will actually make you feel more confident
and people will recognise the difference in you.
To begin to use confident body-language you must first understand what
it is and where it comes from, you must then look at other people as
they interact with each other and watch how they position themselves.
Understanding
Body- Language
To really understand body- language you must try to strip away all the
outward distractions that prevent you from concentrating on what the
person’s body Language is communication to you. So things like
what the person is actually saying may have little bearing on what the
person actually thinks. In the same way as the clothes they wear and
other aspects of a person’s appearance will not tell us how they
are feeling. Quite often people will use the things mentioned above
to distract other people from their true feeling and emotions. In trying
to read body-language you must always remember that the thought processes
involved with body-language take place on the most basic level in, what
psychologists describe as, the sub-conscious.
Because our sub-conscious or to use another phase “our primitive
self” still acts accordingly to a set of basic principles which
govern our body-language it is necessary to understand what these principles
are and what they are trying to achieve.
Many people believe that as a species, although we may think we may
think we have reached a high level of sophistication, sub-consciously
we have not developed much past what our stone-age ancestors. If this
is true then the reasons we react to situations in the way we do can
be explained by this link to our past. In the modern world we may feel
the concerns of our forefathers have little relevance but in reality
we are still programmed for one thing: Survival. The only difference
is we have now reached a period of our evolution where we have learnt
to control our fears and desires sufficiently enough to keep them in
check.